Whether you are the first-born, middle child or baby, your birth order is a large determinate of your personality.
Last week, Dr. Kevin Leman presented a talk on birth order based upon his book, "The Birth Order," for the "Best of Times" seminar series, a collaboration between Edgewood Communities and Jamestown Community College's Center for Continuing Education, at JCC's Scharmann Theatre.
Delana Rupp, assistant director for JCC's Center for Continuing Education, and Tom Holt, president and CEO of Lutheran, detailed the seminar series and introduced Leman, who is a New York Times bestselling author, humorist and psychologist,
Dr. Kevin Leman discussing birth order at JCC’s Scharmann theater.
P-J photo by Daniel Swanson
According to Leman, a self-described baby of his family, the working title of his book, "The Birth Order," was "Abel Had It Coming."
Leman described how parents groom their first-born child for success, and how first-borns are generally "veracious readers" and excellent students.
"First-borns are interesting people," Leman said.
"The key in life is to get (perspective) from the eyes of people you love - to get behind the eyes of your mate."
Dr. Kevin Leman
He then introduced a game to the audience: he would name two celebrities and the audience was to shout out which was a first-born. As he went on to explain, many professions and careers attract individuals with the same birth order - only five presidents were the youngest children in their families. General managers, university professors and nurses are all generally first-borns.
Middle children are often entrepreneurs and are the "opposite of whatever's above them."
Some of the factors that can affect expected birth order roles are differences in sex, twins and physical or mental challenges.
"In relationships, you want someone to have the same values as you do, but it is the difference in personality that really pays off," Leman said. "The key in life is to get (perspective) from the eyes of people you love - to get behind the eyes of your mate."
According to Leman, he is working on a new book, "Planet Middle School."
To close out the presentation, audience members were able to ask questions, which Leman answered on the spot.
Following the birth order presentation, Leman spoke about parenting and grandparenting, based on several of his books, including: "Have a New Kid by Friday," "Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours" and "Parenting Your Powerful Child."
Book signings were held after the presentations.
More than 2,000 people have attended the award-winning Best of Times seminar series at Lutheran over the last two years.
Leman has written over 45 books about marriage and family issues, including "The Birth Order Book," "Sheet Music," "Making Children Mind without Losing Yours," and "Have a New Kid by Friday." He has coauthored, with his son Kevin Leman II, a series of illustrated children's books for each child in the family. Leman, a native of the Williamsville, and his wife, Sande, live in Tucson and spend their summers at Chautauqua Lake.
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