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An Introduction to Liz...

August 29, 2012 - Liz Skoczylas
Bells will ring, theee sun will shine. Whooooa, I'll be his and he'll be mine. We'll love until, the end of time and we'll never be lonely anymore.

This pop-y 1964 song by The Dixie Cups makes the thought of marriage and wedding bells seem exciting and easy. I think they forgot to mention the months leading up to the actual wedding and some of the headaches associated with planning.

Wedding bells are indeed in my future. And, although my byline appears regularly in the pages of The Post-Journal, my wedding announcement hasn't been in yet. We're getting there, I swear. It'll happen sometime between now and our wedding date of May 11.

Allow me to really introduce myself. I am a 25-year-old, recently engaged girl working as The Post-Journal's city reporter. I hold a four-year degree from a private college. I grew up in Jamestown, and returned to the area a year-and-a-half after I graduated college to find work in my field.

My fiance, N, proposed this past May. In the last three months, we have found that people are often eager to provide their unsolicited words of wisdom and advice:

An un-named former Post-Journal editor (Dave Emke), to N: "I didn't plan any of my wedding. That way, it wasn't my fault if things went wrong."

An un-named current Post-Journal editor (Matt Spielman), to N: "Are you sure you want to go through with this?"

A member of our bridal party, to me: "I don't understand your theme. You should change it."

All of our friends who have ever gotten married, to both of us: "Just elope. It's not worth the headache."

So far, there have been a few tears that have come with the planning process. We joke that we're planning the entire wedding by whether I cry at things. I have cried at our reception venue, my dress and our first song. But, I've also shed tears over arguments about escort cards (who cries over escort cards?!) and other wedding details.

Aside from wedding planning, there are other headaches that come with being a young couple living in Chautauqua County. For example, we figure our parents won't be crazy about having a married couple live under either of their roofs, so we have to figure out this basic shelter thing. And, finding a place to call home, together, isn't easy.

As with most couples, money is also an issue. The renting versus owning a home question has been discussed many times over the course of our relationship. Together, we have car payments, credit card payments, student loans, insurance and other costs, which add up.

We both work full time, and N is also a volunteer firefighter. Being perfectly honest, I consider him to be a far more caring person than I would ever consider myself to be. I have seen him leave to respond to a fire at 2 a.m. He has left to respond to an EMS call during dinner. However, being the woman I am, the worst-case-scenario is always in the back of my head every time he leaves to do his job.

And so, as an educated, young, soon-to-be-married professional female living in Chautauqua County, here is my blog. These are my thoughts and frustrations, which come with managing daily life and planning our wedding.


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